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Monday, July 13, 2009

What a man

So I finally saw The Proposal the other day. It was cute and funny, just like I'd heard, but my real takeaway walking out of the theater was, holy crap, Ryan Reynolds is a MAN. I don't mean a man in the sense that he has all the right parts (including a killer set of abs, yes, oh, yes, does he ever), but you know ... a MAN.

I say all the time that I feel so bad for girls today, because you look around Hollywood and there are just no young guys who are MEN. I loved Tom Cruise when I was younger, just adored him. I don't care that he's five foot nothing and has a little crazy in him, when you saw him chasing after an older woman in Top Gun and thundering away at Jack Nicholson in A Few Good Men, he was a MAN. Same for Brad Pitt 10 or 15 years ago. Now, who is there ... Shia LeBeouf? People's Sexiest Bachelor Chace Crawford? I loved the Rolling Stone cover of a water-soaked Zac Efron as much as the next budding cougar, but really? REALLY?

I've decided this absolute DEARTH of testosterone-laced manliness is a reflection of society as a whole. I feel like most of the guys I come across are just waiting for a woman to tell them what to do. And yes, that's very nice sometimes, like when there are heavy things to be lifted and tires to be changed, but the rest of the time it makes me INSANE. If I wanted a child, I WOULD HAVE A CHILD. There's the whole theory about women wanting to be "taken" by a man, and I guess that's part of it, but there's more to it than that. A man is confident, he's mature, he's decisive, he's an equal ... I don't know. He's a MAN.

I discussed this with my friend after watching that movie, and we came up with our short list of the manliest young men in Hollywood:

Taylor Kitsch. If you have not seen Friday Night Lights (the TV show, not the movie), stop reading right this second and go to Netflix or Blockbuster and GET THOSE DVDS. I will even send you mine if you pinkie swear you'll wipe the drool off before you give them back. (He also is in Wolverine, which I have not seen but hear is one big man convention thanks to Mr. Jackman as well.)

Leonardo DiCaprio. He is a little bit stunted in his personal life, I guess, but get him on a movie screen, and wow.

Josh Duhamel. I have shaken that strong, bronzed hand of his, and holy hot flashes and heart palpitations, is he ever a man. HELLO. Go to page 77 of the new InStyle (Katherine Heigl cover) and thank me later.

And yes, Ryan Reynolds. It's not about how he looked, it's about how he came across, as someone who was smart and confident and funny and very sure of who he was. That is MANLY.

Although, I mean, let's be honest, looking like this doesn't hurt:

23 Comments:

At 11:07 AM, Anonymous kristi said...

There are a thousand reasons I love FNL but Taylor Kitsch may be the biggest on of all.
And have you seen the episode of Ellen where Ryan Reynolds is demonstrating how he uses the swords in the Wolverine movie. All I can say is ooohhhh!

 
At 11:50 AM, Blogger Bina said...

I LOVE Ryan! And man oh man, those abs!!!! I will happily lick the sweat off his belly.

Well, not really, but if I were single, and we were in bed, and ... well, you get the picture.

 
At 1:03 PM, Blogger Andie said...

Well, you already know about my infatuation with Ryan Reynolds. I mean, I still think there is NO COINCIDENCE that he married Scarlett Johannson on MY wedding anniversary. ;)

but you are right. There are MEN and their are boys.

and I couldn't agree more about Leonardo DiCaprio. Such a MAN now. I used to look at him like he was a boy up until I saw him in The Departed. Holy hot manliness. He was SO SEXY in that movie.

but yeah, I got ya sister.

 
At 1:17 PM, Blogger Dragonfly said...

AMEN. Taylor Kitsch... sigh. FNL rocks but without him, it'd be a different show. And Ryand Reynolds, hells yeah! Jeffrey Donovan from Burn Notice could be added to that hot list (though not sooo young.. still.. yum!).

 
At 1:25 PM, Blogger Melek said...

real men don't wear swimmies....

:)

i LOVE Ryan Reynolds. soooo hot! I'd like to add to your list Hugh Jackman and Jason Statham. YUMMO!

 
At 2:24 PM, Blogger dorian said...

Hmmm..I never understood all the whining about men not being "men" anymore today nor will I ever understand. I don't see any particular differences between men and women besides the anatomy *lol*
Anyway, what I'm wondering about is why you think that Leonardo is "stunted" in his personal life. What do you mean by that...and even more interesting, what makes you think so?

 
At 3:12 PM, Blogger Beth said...

Oh I love me some Ryan too! and I would HAPPILY lick the sweat off his belly......

 
At 3:31 PM, Blogger Legally Fabulous said...

omg I KNOW! I wrote a post about it when I saw the movie a couple weeks ago.
He is such a babe.

 
At 3:39 PM, Blogger Karen said...

As you know, I just jumped into FNL and ... HOLY MOSES. Thank god he's not really 17 or I'd feel creepy.

You're totally right with your theory, although I don't really think of Ryan Reynolds as that type. Maybe too many viewings of Van Wilder?

 
At 4:53 PM, Blogger Monnik said...

Hey gals... BACK OFF! Taylor Kitsch is mine!

:)

 
At 9:54 PM, Blogger shopgirl said...

I couldn't agree with you more on this post - the "men" today are NOT the men of yesterday. Yes, Tom Cruise if a goofball - I guess hollywood does that to you -but What happened to all the manly men out there? And Ryan? one word. YUM

 
At 10:03 PM, Blogger Michelle said...

Really, Leo? He always seems so... effete to me. I just don't get him.

BUT. you are so right on the lack of true men. I look at the "stars" right now and just shake my head. Thanks for depressing me ;)

 
At 10:44 PM, Blogger Stephanie said...

Ryan Reynolds is totally growing on me! Although his taste in women is questionable.

 
At 11:34 PM, Blogger Mary Ann said...

Loved Leo in the Departed, never really liked him before that.

And I get what you're saying about a MAN...

 
At 12:18 AM, Blogger Swishy said...

Yes, yes, yes, Leo's big moment of manliness was totally The Departed! He owned that thing up one side and down the other.

And Ryan Reynolds ... I'm telling you, there were little hints of it in that movie Definitely, Maybe, but it's full-blown now. I am SO on that train now.

 
At 9:42 AM, Blogger cubmommy said...

I love Ryan Reynolds! I started loving him when he was in 2 Guys, a Girl and a Pizza Place(Nathan Fillion also won my heart in that show. He is Hot, Funny and so grounded. I had my husband buy me the EW he was in. Very nice!

 
At 12:31 AM, Blogger MaNiC MoMMy™ said...

A budding cougar!!!!!!!!! hahahah!!! Miss you! I am in freaking grizzly country and just want to come home! LOL!

 
At 8:18 PM, Blogger Beth said...

I saw this movie with Bina this past weekend...LOVED IT! Yes, it's a chick flick, and yes, it is very very predictable, But I love the chemisty they have together. But I know if it was ME.....I'd have to do that nude scene over and over, and over and over....and over again! Ya know, just so we got it right.

 
At 11:15 PM, Blogger Cheryl said...

I do think Ryan is one cute guy, but the guy from the Ugly Truth (Gerald Butler?) was really good looking. Very funny movie too!

 
At 9:31 AM, Blogger kk said...

totally agree!

I never really thought of Ryan that much (I mean, he was funny and all), but then I saw that cover and OH MY MY...look at that body!

 
At 8:33 AM, Blogger mcBlogger said...

Oh yes, Ryan Reynolds is fantastically hot. And yes, a man. And you know, I think Tom Cruise in Top Gun was my first ever Hollywood crush growing up. I remember going to the theatre with my girlfriends, I think we were 12.

 
At 7:33 PM, Blogger aahcoffee said...

How about the latest James Bond dude? When he sucks the girl's finger in Casino Royale...swoon. And the guy who plays Denny on Gray's Anatomy (he's in PS I Love You too)

 
At 3:22 AM, Anonymous Jennie said...

I love watching old Robert Redford movies because he exudes manliness. Swoon....

I agree with all of your choices and would like to nominate Eric Bana to join it.

 

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